People have been using this ritual for decades: write down everything that hurts, and burn the paper. It seems logical: fire symbolizes purification, ashes fly away, pain flies away.
But in 95% of cases, everything returns in a week or two.
Why?
- Burning is too easy Lit a match — done. The brain perceives it as a game, not a finale. No real price — no signal "this is serious."
- No irreversibility Burned today — tomorrow you can write a new letter and burn it again. The brain quickly learns: "this is just a ritual, can be repeated infinitely."
- No social anchor No one knows you did it. No external confirmation: "I stepped over myself."
- Research confirms James Pennebaker (30+ years of expressive writing research): For a long-term effect, you need "symbolic completion" + "irreversible action." Burning paper — symbolic, but reversible. Paying money — irreversible.
Our method: You write → reread → pay 149 ₽ → everything is deleted forever. Money — that's the price you're sorry for, but not critically. Exactly at that moment, the person says to themselves: "I paid — means I did it for real."
And the brain fixes: the topic is closed.
